We see motivational speakers, and many successful people asking us to stay around like minded people. However, majority of us have friends who aren’t like minded but we still have fun around them. We have various types of people around us. Some who have been with us through thick and thin, and others who we have lifted up. Yet, there are many facts that you might not know, which may greatly affect your journey to success.
1. We are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with.
This is a well known fact among many of us. However, for some of you who might now know, we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with. We may not notice, but we tend to become like the people we stay around with. Each sentence that these people speak gets imprinted in our psyche or the subconscious mind. If these comments are negative, our personality starts becoming toxic and cynical. If these comments are positive, we are filled with a gush of joy and optimism. Being around the right people is very important. Surrounding yourself’s with like minded people helps you go towards your goal with less distractions. The problem is that not many people are like minded. Many people around us are just passing by being caught up in their daily ordeals. Thus, this may mislead people to think that it means we shall have no friend in such circumstances. The fact is, like minded people doesn’t mean the people on your level. It means surrounding yourself with people who will listen to your ambitions, and in turn you can help them by showing them the right path.
It is important that the 5 people are the people who actually want to go somewhere in life. If you are around people who have been beaten down by life, you will end up in the same place. I recall that while being around one of my previous best friends, I was unknowingly becoming rude and disrespectful towards others. He was a negative person and his negativity was rubbing off on me. It wasn’t until later I realized that even though that friend meant the world to me, it was time to show him the right path. When I tried helping him grow, but he was reluctant. Ultimately, I had to distance myself from someone who was like a family, just to shape my mentality for the better. I have seen a drastic change since then. If you have people around you who refuse to change for the better, they are only going to hold you back. You have to realize that no matter how precious, nothing is greater than your dream. Those who love you will support you and will listen to your suggestions and accept them willingly. If the ones you love tend to hold you back from doing what you love, its time to distant yourself. Love can be named one of the greatest dream killers. It is not because love is an evil thing, but if you are bound by the expectations of the people who love you, then you might be in the wrong game. You will not be able to advance forward and you will keep stagnant, ultimately leading to cracks in the bonds. Thus, it is very important to surround yourself with people who think similarly as you do. You have to form bonds with those who will help you grow. If your friends do not help you grow, then you are carrying a lot of dead weight. Remember, the 5 people you surround yourself with determine your future.
2. If You Are The Smartest Person In The Room, You are in The Wrong Room.
If you surround yourself with at least one person who is smarter than you, then you have people to preach and inspire, but you have no one to learn from. You need people who are achieving more than you are. If you are the smartest person in the room, you have everything to give but nothing to take away. You cannot learn anything in the room. To master a game, you do not consult people who have never played it. You consult people who have mastered it. Similarly to master your art, you have to consult people who have already learnt the art you are learning – be it marketing, sales, chess, soccer or anything that can be learnt. You need people who help you grow in your field. If you do not have someone who helps you grow, you will end up staggered at the same spot for the rest of your life.
The microscopic things contribute to your success. When you are determined to let go of the people who hold you down, you set yourself free from the trap of expectations. Unfortunately, the ones who hold you down will mostly be your loved ones. They won’t be the haters or naysayers, instead they will be the people who should have supported you the most. That is why it will create you problems later on if you do not initially form bonds with those who think alike. If you surround yourself with wrong people, they will label your dreams as crazy and too dreamy. They won’t believe in what you believe in. The point is to inspire, and get inspired by your friends. Thus, chose the room you go in wisely.
3. Stay AWAY From Negative People!
We take up negative information five times faster than we take up positive information. We tend to become cynical and pessimistic. If you hang out with negative people, you will start believing that the world is a hostile place. With the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon, you will only notice the negative things that take place around you. Thus, you will tend to notice more and more negative things. This chain reaction will continue and when you realize it, it will be too late. You will see the world in only the shades of dark. Thus as your psyche believes that the world is hostile, you will act hostile and start receiving hostility from life.
It is an irony, that we cannot get to know about the world without opening the news channel, yet we cannot avoid getting cynical and angry watching the news. We accept that our countries, situations or the world is the way that it is. This frustrates people and they erupt their emotions of their vulnerable friends. When too fed up with life, the Old Man Syndrome takes place. This leads certain people to pull others down to their level and make them feel bad for themselves. Thus, if you surround yourself with negative people, you induce a LOT of drama in your life. You start feeling that life is getting bitter and bitter with time. The truth is that, it really isn’t! All you have to do is surround yourself with people who will support you, who will help you push your limits and support you. Support yourself with people who will accept you for who you are and will never mind taking time for you. Surround yourself with such people, and you have already got a head start on your road to success!
Surround yourself with people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel, energies are contagious.