We all had our childhood dreams, no matter how unrealistic they got. We could see ourselves already there, sliding on the rainbows, drinking from the chocolate rivers in our own candy land. However as we grew up, our minds developed, and sadly the child in us slowly died. The society often criticizes and labels an individual with big dreams because they themselves cannot comprehend or envision it.
The meaning of a good life for an average person is getting a satisfying job and earning enough to being able to afford a beautiful car.
People have engraved in their minds that reaching the pinnacle of success is impossible for them. They will give you excuses about their conditions, their present or past circumstances, and a trillion reasons as to why only a selected few succeed. People still have the misconception that the successful people are successful because they were naturally talented or god gifted. It is funny, people do not even know how the greats succeeded and term their success as luck! Here in this post, we will answer why 99% people never succeed!
The Reasons Why People Never Try To Succeed
Fear of criticism, risk, uncertainty, failures, disappointing others or probably ending up in any sorts of trouble. The reason why the most successful people are so successful, is their mindset. Everyone who embarked on the journey to success encountered criticism, failures, struggles, obstructions, obstacles, hindrance or interfering of people on ones opinion and the most important, self-doubt. These will come to everyone who embark on the journey to success, why most people give up is because they have the nothing for something mentality. People want instant gratification at the cost of not providing any value to anyone.
People are afraid of the outcomes their journey to success will provide them. There are two types of dream chasers.
- Who Can Only See Their Goal
- People Who See Those Little Obstructions In The Path to Your Goal
People fall in love with what the road has to provide, and forget their goal, ultimately setting themselves for failure. Goals are meant to scare you, so dream as big as you can!
If Your Dreams Don’t Scare You, They Are Not Big Enough.
Thinking Success Is Difficult To Achieve.
It Is absolutely so easy to succeed. Then the question arises, why aren’t most people already successful, right? Well, it is also easy not to be successful, by giving up, by procrastinating, by delaying work or by loving sleep more than success. If you want to become successful, you have to beat yourself in the process to succeed.
To be honest, most people just term worldly success as difficult, and never actually try to achieve it. Isn’t it really mind blowing, judging success without even trying to achieve it? How are you ever going to know whats out there waiting for you without even trying?
The most common cause of failure is never getting up again. Failing doesn’t make you a failure, quitting does. The moment you give up, you have failed. Winners Never Quit and Quitters Never Win. The road to success teaches you lessons, that you will need to learn in order to reach the destination you are in search of. The only way the road to success teaches you lessons is pain. The time you would take to reach success directly depends on how much pain and suffering you can take, and keep striving forward.
Dogma, or the results of someone else’s thinking is one of the most common reasons why people don’t succeed. Those who hustle for success know this, that people will always give them reasons as to why it cannot be done. People will suggest you to take another path, or go for simpler career paths. Every famous personality you know has met people that told them they can’t. You HAVE TO believe in yourself, that you will achieve what you set out to achieve.
People will judge you in every turn of life. But always remember this, the judgments they make on you is a reflection of how they judge themselves. Here is a small story, there is a 6 year old child, who wants to become an astronaut, but his teacher tells him that he wouldn’t be able to. He goes to his grandfather to share this experience. His grandfather gives him a precious gem, none like any other. The gem is priceless, and is only of its kind. The wise grandfather hands it to him, and asks him to go to different jewelers to ask them the price of the gem, with the condition that he wouldn’t sell it to anyone. The child goes to different jewelers to ask the price of the gem. One of them was willing to pay $2000, the second one was willing to pay $5 million for it, the third one was willing to pay $50 million for it. The child came home and told the rates he was offered for the gem. He then asked why he was asked to do this. His grandfather replied, “people priced this priceless gem according to their status, just like that, people will judge your worth according to their own limits. You are a priceless gem with no limits, don’t let anyone tell yo what your limits are”.
You are a lion, don’t let criticism stop you, a lion is unstoppable! No matter what anyone tells you, believe in your path. It is okay if it has never be done, that is how greats are made. Greats are made to break the rules, to break the taboos. Don’t let anyone tell you what you are worth, you are a rare breed, be a beast!
Failures are prerequisite to success. Failure will come your way. Don’t let it stop you from being what you were meant to be. Failure will teach you more than success ever will. Winners welcome failure. None of us learnt how to walk without falling. You try, you fail, you try again, you fail, you try again, and you will succeed!
Every failure that will take place in your road to greatness will happen for a reason, it will happen to teach you something. You may not realize why it happened anytime soon, but you will realize when the right time comes, and you will be thankful it did happen. The ground is just 6 ft. below you, how down below can you fall? Fall, and get back up.
Before anyone else believes it, you have to believe it. Even the most successful doubt themselves at different points of life, they however replace this doubt with positive thoughts and action! They know that their strength lies in themselves.
Believe You Can and You are already Halfway There
Doubt has killed more dreams than failure ever has. It is fatal to your greatness. Just like a good farmer, pluck out the weeds of doubt as soon as they grow. For more information, I strongly recommend you to view my article, Believe In Yourself When No One Does! After reading this article, you will have a self believe that you thought you never would have!
Greed For Money
I wish everyone could experience being rich and famous, so they’d see it wasn’t the answer to anything. ~Jim Carrey
Money is important, true. But confusing it as getting your life right, probably isn’t. Elon Musk doesn’t have enough money to do what he is doing, yet he is doing it anyway because it is about the purpose, not about the money. The reason many people fail down the way is due to their need for instant results. Good things take time. And because of the impatience, after some failures and no income, people tend to give up. What people fail to see is their is a mountain, you have to reach its peak to be successful. There is a shortcut way to reach there (which is taking the helicopter), which will provide you no experience. There is also a long, difficult, tiring way up there, that will teach you far more than the shortcut way will ever teach you. Most people will seek the helicopter, but what they fail to realize as soon as they get the success, they will see the downfall.
If you are in it only for the money, only to buy everything you dreamed of, you probably should reconsider what you are going after. We see many successful people get depressed and unsatisfied with their life, or at worse take their own lives. This at majority of the time happens as their goal really weren’t to do what they were doing, but to earn tons of money. If you love the work, you will stay happy all your life. If you are in it for the money, you will live in a constant fear to lose what you have.
Okay, lets be honest, we all love the cozy warm bed in the winter evenings. It feels so awesome just to be in the warm blanket right? Well guess what, your dreams don’t care how you feel. You want it, go get it. That is the thumb rule of success. One can only procrastinate when they have unimportant goals, or they cannot see how big of an opportunity they are missing out on.
We all, no matter be it the successful people, or a homeless person, get 24 hours in a day. The successful people make sure they utilize every minute of it. That is the big difference between them and the average! If you want to live the life you want, you gotta push yourself beyond your own limits! Success is not just a plan that you carry forward. It is those little, micro things that you do everyday that decides your success. You may not see the significance early on, but as time progresses you would know just how much they have really helped you!
Here is what I heard from a motivational speaker about this topic, eating one burger today wouldn’t really affect you much. Probably eating it everyday for a week wouldn’t either. But eating it everyday for the next one year will turn you into a burger. That is how success works, healthy habits contribute to success. Every single thing that mayn’t even be connected to your work will matter for your success.
Lack Of Action
Success Without Action is Hallucination. Things wouldn’t move on their own buddy. You have to get up, take the hits, feel the pain, feel the stress and uncertainty, and still keep pushing forward. You will have to work late, sleep late, wake up early, and grind! Law of attraction is very true, but what I believe in more is the law of action! Combined, you can achieve literally anything you want!
You have to be willing to work hard enough to get it. Let us take an example, let us imagine that you are in a basketball competition with Kobe Bryant , unarguably one of the greatest basketball players of ALL TIME! The one who scores the most baskets will win! Even though Kobe is far better than you in basketball, you will have more chances to win if he just stands at his place and not shoot any balls!
That is how taking action works! You cannot portray your skill set or your talents without action. Most people fail as they have the best business ideas, however they fail to take action, hence failing completely. The best book was never written, the best song was never sung. All of this, as people failed to take action. Taking action now. Life ain’t for forever, do what you were sent to do today!
Lack Of Purpose
If you do not have a purpose of doing what you are doing, if you don’t have a reason to do what you are doing, then you will feel unsatisfied with your life. You will feel unsatisfied with your work. You have to love what you do.
Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. ~Steve Jobs
The only way to stay motivated is to do what you love. Motivation comes, and then goes. Conviction stays. The only way to stay truly convicted and motivated is to be passionate about what you do! Without being passionate, you will give up on your work. You have to do it for the people you love, you have to do it for the countless people out there who need your help! You have to look behind the mirror, and look at the countless people waiting for your aid! Have a purpose.
Those were the reasons why people most people do not succeed. Even though only 1% people have succeeded, it doesn’t mean you have a 1% chance. It is just that the 99% people gave up, or never tried! If you are failing, and still trying, you belong to that rare breed of 1% people who are making it happen! Never stop the hustle, no matter what! you can stop when you are dead or completely paralyzed, but as long as you live, live your purpose. Live a life you were born to live.
If You Don’t Make The Time To Create The Life You Want, You’re Eventually Going To Spend A Lot Of Time Dealing With A Life You Don’t Want.
If you are inquisitive to know more about how success works, I would strongly recommend you to buy and to give a read to this book with such a powerful message by Spencer Johnson, Who Moved My Cheese? . It contains story of four characters, who live in a maze and look for cheese to nourish them and make them happy. Cheese is a metaphor for what you want to have in life, for example a good job, a loving relationship, money or possessions, health or spiritual peace of mind. The maze is where you look for what you want, perhaps the organisation you work in, or the family or community you live in. The problem is that the cheese keeps moving. I would really recommend you to read this book, as you will regret not reading it. A perfect book, and also within a very reasonable price!